2016

Since the summer of 2016 I’ve been hiding, lying, avoiding, hating… you know all those things that you learn as a school age child to not do.  I’m disappointed about it, disappointed at myself for doing this for so long.  But let me explain – please.  Let me explain why I hid, why I lied…

Just Because

Just because her body protected her… doesn’t mean she wanted it.  Self-lubrication is the vagina’s natural reaction to prevent pain. Just because she let you into her home, into her bed, into her heart… doesn’t mean you had permission to go into her vagina. Just because the skirt was short, the cleavage was out… doesn’t…

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A word that shocks, a word that hurts, a word that shames, a word that attacks…so why speak on it?  Simply…because it’s necessary.  It has been proved that it in order to heal the “act” needs to be acknowledged then addressed. Every day is filled fighting battles; battles that no one knows about because you…

Twenty Sixteen

On the eve of the new year, I paid and renewed this blog.  I waited for the last day with the countdown telling me I had 11 hours to renew or lose it forever. I debated with it, I started reading my old posts and realized this shit is therapeutic.  Just writing and not caring…

Guilt

It’s one of the most toxic and worse feelings we can feel. It has the ability to eat you alive… literally. Yet if you never felt guilt … you could be considered a psychopath. It doesn’t matter why you felt it; whether as a parent, a lover, a friend, whatever role in your life it…

The Ultimate Act

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Goodness. Deep…and it should be – forgiving is the ultimate act us humans can do.   Forgiveness…

Breaking Up

Breaking up with someone is hard no matter the situation. But guess what there will be break ups in our lives that will be rewarding, ones that will be a surprise and ones that will be confusing.  And they are all okay. Now what about if you are the one doing the breaking and actually…

Boundaries Aren’t Bad

Goodness I’ve missed writing. So guess what I did in the first 20 days of this year? I actually went outside of myself and sought “help” with a professional.  3 sessions down and I fell in love with her; not like Tony Soprano where I want to smash but genuinely love her for getting me…

2015

Woke up today with two precious people in my life and one of the first things I did was fill out a new year declaration on Instagram. I also deleted the 4 drafts I had on here that I continued to go back to for the last 2 months. So something I’ve never done is…

This Writing Thing.

I get a lot of emails, texts, calls asking if what I write about are my own experiences. Short answer, yes.I don’t have the best memory so there are times when I’m talking to my family or friends, reading a book, or watching a movie that triggers some thing in my memory that relates to…