Opposite Sex BS – msjadore

Until It Was More

Within minutes of getting to know each other it felt different. Living hours apart, the first few months were just by phone before we met in person, that wasn’t by choice though – our schedules were different and neither of us had the free time that would’ve been required. That didn’t keep us from talking…

Time Wasted….is Bullshit

I recently had a conversation with some one that triggered a memory of one of the most hurtful things someone has told me. “This whole relationship was a waste of time” I know what you’re thinking, if that was one of the most hurtful things, she’s heard after a relationship ended, she’s a lucky gal….

I Is Her

I was never that kid, that teen, that young adult and now that middle aged adult that had the idea or the dream of a wedding. Taking it even less extreme, I never felt I needed a spouse or that I was/am waiting for “that person” to come along. I know I may be losing…

Forbidden

That’s a sexy ass word, isn’t it? I mean goodness the definition is to not be allowed/to be banned from a person or a thing, I don’t know about you but that makes me want that thing even more. Call it childish or selfish and you may be right but isn’t that part of self…

Vulnerability

I recently read someone’s take on vulnerability and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. The irony that he wrote about vulnerability while being raw and true in the writing was vulnerable on it’s own. He took me through the reality of opening up and being rewarded by being looked at like you…

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A word that shocks, a word that hurts, a word that shames, a word that attacks…so why speak on it? Simply…because it’s necessary. It has been proved that it in order to heal the “act” needs to be acknowledged then addressed. Every day is filled fighting battles; battles that no one knows about because you…

The Ultimate Act

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Goodness. Deep…and it should be – forgiving is the ultimate act us humans can do. Forgiveness…

Breaking Up

Breaking up with someone is hard no matter the situation. But guess what there will be break ups in our lives that will be rewarding, ones that will be a surprise and ones that will be confusing. And they are all okay. Now what about if you are the one doing the breaking and actually…

Boundaries Aren’t Bad

Goodness I’ve missed writing. So guess what I did in the first 20 days of this year? I actually went outside of myself and sought “help” with a professional. 3 sessions down and I fell in love with her; not like Tony Soprano where I want to smash but genuinely love her for getting me…

A Broken Heart

Alone. Humiliated. Shocked. Scared. Disgusted. Betrayed. Uncontrollable. Imagine feeling these emotions and then your body begins giving up on you…. groaning with pain, so nauseaus that you are gagging even actually vomiting, have so many tears you are certain you are going to die of dehydration, legs so weak that you are holding onto the…