Things that make you (or just me) go hmmm

My mom was married to my dad for almost 30 years… divorce wasn’t her idea, it was my dad’s.  Just thought I’d put that out there. Any who After that my mom began to date.  She met her now husband & when I asked her if she was in love with him.  She said “he…

Stresses

So if you could reduce or even prevent stress why wouldn’t you? There are certain stresses that we call AUTOMATIC stresses:  family, work, kids & of course money can be put under all 3 of those.  Unless you are in the perfect career with the perfect amount of workload or your family is perfect with…

I Love You

Those 3 words spoke together can do a lot. I’m sure we’ve all said them when we didn’t mean it.  I know I have, I blame immaturity for that but also vulnerability in the moment.  This is something I will never do again.  I’m grown now.  I understand those 3 words are powerful, they are…

The Decision

So,  we all have that person.  That person that makes you say “what if”.  They say… we all have that person. I really didn’t think I had one.  I do.  And he’s back. Now what? He’s saying the right things but most importantly his actions are showing his changes.  Did he change because of you,…

Music

“Music is a higher revelation than all wisdom and philosphy. Music is the electrical soil in which the spirit lives, thinks and invents.” ~ Ludwig van Beethoven ~ Music is dope, that pretty much sums it up. Music is an escape for a lot of us; no matter the kind you listen to, no matter…

The Line

So you meet someone.  You click.  Shit is going good.  You start getting to know them better – start to know their thoughts, values, opinions, you know all that ‘important’ stuff.  Then it comes to the point where you have to decide what to do with that person. Is this person going into a friend zone…

Who’s to Blame?

On twitter recently one of my faves (@yesImthatdope) asked: You talk…flirt…text…hang out. THEN find out they have a significant other.  Your fault for not asking? Or his/hers for not saying? This shit tore me.  I couldn’t answer. I personally don’t give out information freely so I can’t be mad at someone else for doing the…

NAKED

I know I’m not the only one.  Thinking that that getting “naked” with someone…meant sex, foreplay… that had to mean that I was opening up, that I was letting that person in. False. That’s too easy.  Take off your clothes -you do it everyday to get in the shower…EASY.  Have sex -you’ve done it before (most likely) …EASY….

What If

I know I’m not the only one that runs these ‘what if’ scenarios in my head.  We were all taught, trained, hypnotized to almost not think of this…we get the “No regrets, you learned a lesson” or “It just wasn’t meant to be” or even “God knows what he’s doing”.  I get it…BUT what if……….

What I Miss

As I’ve said before….the whole “I miss you” is very hard for me to say.  I miss my daughter when she’s at her dad’s, I miss my family in NY & DR -barely though.  I can tell you I do miss some things about being with a significant other, this isn’t even one person.  These…